Have a good relationship with yourself

man-flower.jpgAs we move into May 2016 and the flow of spring time is in the air, lets not forget to have a great time with yourself or with your partner or who ever you are with, the best is yet to come and spring is about going forward and spring cleaning up your life, home, and work.

The relationship you have with yourself is arguably the foundation on which your other relationships are built, and studies are supporting this notion. High self-esteem predicts better relationship satisfaction, and high self-esteem of both partners is an even better predictor of strong relationship satisfaction. Moreover, people with high self-esteem appear to respond more constructively and positively during conflict when they think their partner is committed to the relationship, whereas people with low self-esteem don’t do this even when they believe their partner is committed and the self-esteem with yourself is just as important and needed in your life,

Put it into practice: Like most things, increasing the quality of your relationship can take time. Begin from a place that you can believe. It’s okay if right now you have a hard time believing that you’re a worthwhile person. You don’t have to tell yourself that yet if you don’t believe it. Start by identifying at least one thing you like about yourself or one thing you’re good at doing. Then, look for other things from that starting point. Remember, more of what you look for tends to pop out, so look for not only what your partner does right, but what you do right, have fun with yourself and with other with this practice and really connect.

so indeed treat yourself with care and everyone you are with as your relationships are part of your life balance and how you connect with yourself is how you connect with other in life, home and work.

Thank you.

George Durocher

Tips For Grief & Loss

Grief is a personal experience, unique to each mourner and unique to each loss. Grief comes in waves, as times of peace and calm are suddenly shattered by overpowering emotion. The following few suggestions tips are to help you ride out the waves as you cope with your grief and loss, everyday we can grow and learn ways to cope to feel again in life, grief & loss is never easy for anyone and it take time and balance to move ahead again to heal and have a healthy life.

  1. Take time out. In many ways, the experience of grief is similar to recovery from a serious illness; some days will be darker, and some will be brighter. Recognize your limits, and separate the things that must be done from those that can wait. Don’t worry about keeping up with your usual schedule. If you have to cancel or reschedule commitments, people will understand.


  1. Talk. Painful feelings held inside are like an infection festering in a wound – they need to come out in order for you to heal. When friends ask how they can help, ask them to just be with you and listen. Tell them how important it is for you to be able to express what you’re thinking and feeling. If you think you need more than the support of your friends, consider talking with a professional counselor


  1. Express yourself creatively. Writing is another excellent way to express yourself. Try keeping a journal or writing letters, whether you send them or not. When words won’t come, artistic outlets like painting or sculpting can help you to communicate what’s in your heart and soul. Creative expression can bring clarity to the turmoil you feel and insight into feelings you weren’t aware of.


  1. Take care of your physical health. Grief takes a physical toll as well as an emotional toll. Rest, exercise, and proper nutrition are essential to healing. Counteract a poor appetite by eating small amounts of healthy foods rather than large meals. If you have difficulty sleeping, try taking brief naps or just putting your feet up and relaxing whenever you can. And while you may not be motivated to exercise, just taking a brief walk now and then can lift your spirits and help you to sleep at night.


Please remember that you are not alone and if you are in need of any counseling & coaching, please fill free to contact me and I’ll be glad to help.

Thank you.

George Durocher


3 Happy Steps

Snapshot_20111224_108Happiness is as simple as I, 2, 3, lets face it, we all want happiness and joy, so follow your passions and it will be there for you, but first you need to take one big step forward and risk it all or you will alway be one step backwards and never gaining anything, so keep moving forward and your happiness will be there for you waiting with open arms, be excited, get excited, feel excited.

1- Get 10 minutes of sun a day.

With sunscreen, there are benefits to getting sun. Well-documented research shows there is a relationship between low vitamin D levels and poor health, such as frail bones, multiple sclerosis, and prostate cancer. We need vitamin D!

Also, light hitting your skin, not just your eyes, helps reverse seasonal affective disorder. Here comes the sun! Let the sunshine in!

2- Turn off the TV, Internet, and everything, Can you do it?

Rather than watch TV, use your time more mindfully. Read, walk, meet friends, or join an evening group or class. Use your time to connect to others and yourself. Or jump in and do something different, spontaneous, and wild!

3- Create

Even if you don’t consider yourself an artist there are so many ways to express creatively. Cook with a loved one, dance in your living room, sing in the car, journal without editing or crossing out, learn a new joke.

Be happy, wild, and free as you express yourself more creatively!

Happiness is for everyone and if you don’t practice it, you won’t be happy, so get your happiness on and enjoy the flow of it.

Thank you for reading

George Durocher

Have A Heart

man-flower.jpgThe heart will go on, as they say, we all have a heart if we are alive and its very important to love it, enjoy it, exercise it and take great care of it, it is your heart after all, hehe, and what you do to it, it matters, so here are a few tips for a heart healthy month for February 2016, if you can or have the time, try to do something fun everyday for a whole month to care for your heart and to enjoy it as you are here and now in life, remember to laugh, smile and forgive as your heart will thank you for it and in no time, you will have a strong active healthy heart, how exciting and fun, I love my heart as if its my baby..LOL, so for me, I really take care of it and own it, work it, and love it.

Get a Good Pair of Sneakers

Is your energy lagging? Though it may be the last thing you feel like doing when you’re tired, exercise — even a brisk walk — can be more effective than a nap or cup of coffee at fighting fatigue.

Go Fish

If you suffer from dry eyes, up your seafood intake. Salmon, sardines, and mackerel contain omega-3 fatty acids, which the body uses to produce tears, among other things. Research suggests that people who consume higher amounts of these fats are less likely to have dry eyes

Eat Bananas

People whose diets are rich in potassium may be less prone to high blood pressure. Besides reducing sodium and taking other heart-healthy steps, eat potassium-packed picks such as bananas, cantaloupe, and oranges.

Get a Massage

Certain trigger points — spots of tension in musculoskeletal tissue — can cause back pain. Ask a massage therapist or other bodyworker who specializes in myofascial release or neuromuscular therapy to focus on these points during a massage

Make Small Talk

Engaging in casual conversation with others may help keep you as sharp as doing a word puzzle, according to some studies. Just 10 minutes of daily chatter appears to improve mental function and preserve memory

Drink Green Tea

Hot or iced, green tea can help rev up your workout. Its catechins, antioxidants, and caffeine help increase the metabolic generation of heat. Drink a cup about 10 minutes before exercising

Thank you for reading and have a heart healthy day.

George Durocher

Tips For NYE 2016

mn.jpgWell indeed 2016 is coming up and I wanted to share a few tips to help you feel ease and content about your new years eve, I feel its going to be a great year in 2016 and there is nothing wrong with being positive about it, not all events are negative in one life, home, work and self, so step back and just breathe, a new year is indeed coming up in the here and now.

1. Stay positive.
You can listen to the cynics and doubters and believe that success is impossible or you can know that with faith and an optimistic attitude all things are possible.

2. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement:
My purpose is_______________________.

3. Take a morning walk of gratitude.
I call it a “thank you walk.” It will create a fertile mind ready for success.

4. Instead of being disappointed about where you are…
…think optimistically about where you are going.

5. Eat…
…breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

6. Remember that…
…adversity is not a dead-end but a detour to a better outcome.

7. Focus on…
…learning, loving, growing and serving.

So do enjoy these tips and have a great time finding whatever work for you in your life.

Thank you.
George Durocher

Holiday Tips For 2015.

photoSo the holiday flow is coming up again and I wanted to share a few tips with you to feel grounded and happy about the holidays this year, its stressful for everyone and we indeed have our own ways to deal with the stress, but here are a few tips to help you get started to take care of yourself, so please fill free to make a list for yourself of tips, so you have some sort of control and you won’t fall apart over the holidays, so take control and be merry and jolly, holidays are to feel good and great with family, friends and pets.

  1. Drink more water. Stay hydrated. Alcohol is wet, but it is not hydrating and it tends to have lots of calories. It is also a depressant, so you will pay for whatever immediate “benefit” you have from alcohol with feeling lethargic and moody later.
  2. Sleep. Sleep patterns tend to get thrown off when you are not on a schedule during the holidays. Try to go to sleep at a reasonable hour. Also, stay physically active, avoid electronic screens for about an hour before bedtime, and make rest a priority. Sleepy people can be stressed-out people.
  3. Exercise. Research shows a strong link between exercise and mood. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that may leave you feeling happier and more relaxed. A workout at the gym or a brisk 30-minute walk can give you time away from the chaos at home and help buffer you against stress.
  4. Stay connected. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out friends, attend religious or social events, or volunteer your time to help others. Relationships are healing, and they are one of the best methods of fighting stress.

I hope everyone has a great, safe, fun, soulful holidays and PLEASE remember its about family & friends & yourself.


George Durocher